I have been working on some programs, grants and submissions recently bringing to light how many women truly are Living Beyond Bondage.
This is just the start of truly opening up, sharing my journey, my healing and how so much in our every day world creates separation – mostly within ourselves, our bodies and keeps us separate and judging one another worse though ourselves.
This is just part of a recent submission with some photos.
Living Beyond Bondage
Food is the Drug of Choice – its within us to start the change!
We were all born pure, innocent and full of love.
Somewhere along the line the story got distorted.
The drug of choice for many, especially women, is food.
Along with that drug often comes constant self criticizing, loathing, judging and obsessing about what one ate, didn’t eat, body size, shape and imperfections – no matter how small they may seem, it always gets distorted.
Yes, media, advertising, possibly parents, teachers, friends or siblings may play a role in somehow reminding us that we aren’t good enough the way we are IF we buy into it and believe it.
Living Beyond Bondage
It’s a disorder gone rampant, with over 91% of women disliking their bodies and themselves, many to an extreme. 80% of 13 yr old Canadian girls have been on a diet already and 95% of people with an eating disorder are between the ages of 12 – 25 yrs.
I know – I’ve been one of them.
The mental, emotional and often times physical bondage is excruciating – yet many hide it well from others.
Stuffing down emotions, or better yet, not feeling them at all.
We often feel alone, fragmented and on our own keeping things bottled up inside.
Feeling Alone, Isolated, Confused and more……..
We are caught in a vicious cycle of self depreciating, devaluing, loathing and often times self abusive – until we decide enough!!
Only 5 % of women naturally have the body type portrayed by women in the media and for which the other 91% are trying to compete, yet we continue to strive for something that truly is not the ‘norm.’
We aren’t good enough the way we are is the constant reminder.
The other 4% don’t have tv, internet or magazines and therefore they are the free ones.
If we’re going to buy into stories, why not buy into self empowering ones?
Who truly decided what beauty is?
We all have a story to tell – we’re trying to make it a similar to one another and that is the start of the disconnect.
We are born and should be able to be our authentic selves and creatively express who we truly be through our gifts – not by trying to be like one another.
With the start of the disconnect we compare, judge, shut down and buy into someone else’s ideas of beauty and what we should look like and we start our own mantra of not being good enough.
Yet we are like snowflakes – each individually designed, beautiful and unique.
Some of us, remembering that, have broken free from that bondage – most of it being self imposed and mental self talk.
Breaking Free from the Bondage and Realizing it was just all me!
We decided that our lives weren’t about fighting our bodies, hating our bodies or ourselves or spending 95% of our time worrying about a few pounds or what we did / did not eat.
Cause it’s really not about food.
There were too many other beautiful, amazing things to see, feel, be and do in this lifetime.
That is the start of removing the bondage – you allow yourself to feel – ALL and reprogram the self talk.
The one thing that separates a food / body obsessive addiction is you have to learn to live with both, unlike most other addictions.
When one can truly do that – accept and love what is – then the bondage is gone and nothing is more freeing than that.
I know I am one of them!
Breaking Free from the Self Imposed Bonadage
Women Wanted who Want to Break Free – Raw, Naked and Beautiful Project – Real, Authentic and Whole.
women Breaking Free from Self Imposed Bondage & Limitation
Please contact me for more information, if you would like to be part of this project or wherever I am at in my travels a possible photo shoot – it’s time to make some big changes and it starts with each one of us!
This was the project I started earlier this year, but with travelling and moving it didn’t stay in the front of my projects. Also trying to find locations as I don’t have a studio hasn’t always been easy to shoot mostly nudes. Now that the weather is rainy, grey and cold well lets just say it ain’t beach weather!!
I’m shifting gears a little with the project as I am moving forward with it no matter what – it’s like my Sou’s urging, one of them, to do this – I know it is needed now more than ever with 40% of 9 year old girls either have been or on a diet and that is just in Canada…..WTH?? I think back to what I was doing at 9 years old and I was playing with dolls or out climbing trees. I was not dieting, I was too busy out side playing to do that, it’s a big sign of how the times have changed and what is going on in our culture.
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I’ve only had the honour of shooting a handful of ladies so far, who have also shared their stories for the book that it will turn into – and the body issues, self esteem issues and even one’s relationship with food as I know many, many women struggle with this.
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I must say they are brave, bold and beautiful as I know myself personally what comes up for me when it’s time to expose my body. It is much easier now as on purpose I have gone to the nude beach to over come any issues. When being photographed and attention is really directed on me, I pay attention to what I am feeling and have started asking why? Why do I feel ashamed, shy or embarrassed?
Dam, I’m almost 51 years old, you would have thought I would have been over this, yet the lingering effects of disordered eating and not feeling good enough most of my life……..the programming. Much stats with television and the commercials – which I just recently heard this and love it
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Television – Tells Lies to YOUR Vision……..
Magazines – OMG the ads in there and I could go on!
Anyway, as my new journey begins there will be many photos and stories of beautiful women and their stories on overcoming body issues, self esteem issues and food issues.
Raw, Naked and Beautiful is not about nudity – it’s about being real, authentic and of course beautiful no matter when in the nude, bathing suit, fully dressed or anything in between – it’s not vanity or ego driven!
Everything is Energy. These ways of living, feeling and being lower our vibration, create much self judgment, low self love and when we heal this within ourselves and can help other’s do the same we come closer to who we truly our – Energy of unconditional Love having a Human experience.
It’s time to raise the vibration within us and on our planet – the world needs us to step up and start shining our light so we can light someone close to us and keep it going so it’s bright bright bright!!
So, I so look forward to bringing photos of beautiful women and some great stories starting soon!!
Create that feeling within of being beautiful, empowered and full of self love!!
Raw, Naked and Beautiful
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“That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is. Most people love you for who you pretend to be. To keep their love, you keep pretending – performing. You get to love your pretence. It’s true, we’re locked in an image, an act – and the sad thing is, people get so used to their image, they grow attached to their masks. They love their chains. They forget all about who they really are. And if you try to remind them, they hate you for it, they feel like you’re trying to steal their most precious possession.” ― Jim Morrison
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Have you ever gone hiking somewhere into the back woods or somewhere where you could connect with nature. Have you taken some time to sit in the nude in the sun and soak up the rays, enjoying the quiet (obviously where people aren’t of course), sitting with your thoughts, being present and knowing you’re perfect just the way you are?
I did and it was fun and freeing!!
“Freedom from obsession is not about something you do; it’s about knowing who you are. It’s about recognizing what sustains you and what exhausts you. What you love and what you think you love because you believe you can’t have it.”
― Geneen Roth, Women, Food and God: An Unexpected Path to Almost Everything
“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.”
― Amy Bloom
“A cultural fixation on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty but an obsession about female obedience.”
We are heading out on a road trip today. It’s been a crazy, amazing time leading up to this moment and I’ve been so present in what I have been doing that I gave very little time to thinking about this trip – more about all of that in another post.
As we make our way down to Florida and back over a couple of months I want to connect with women who would like to have a private photo session either just for themselves or to be part of my book coming up – Raw, Naked and Beautiful.
I am looking for women who want to be part of the Conscious Feminine to share their stories of their journey of coming back to more of themselves, more love, more self love and are body proud!!!
I have been receiving messages from the women who I have been doing nude photography sessions with on how much it has furthered their journey, empowered them, healed them and more.
The more love and self love we can bring back and embody is powerful!!
It’s time to take back our power!
Are there other ways? Of course, but this is one powerful way too, it may not speak to you but the women who have gone down the path of an eating disorder or similar, have had body issues, self esteem issues and who have bought into the lies by the advertising, media and more that we aren’t enough, nor good enough or again similar will get this!!
Please pass this on and or reach out to me as I would love to connect with you if this is resonating with you!!
I don’t know when it really started for me but I remember at the age of 13 years old being in my grandparents kitchen and my mom had me measure my thighs and she did the same, then kind of laughed at me saying her thighs were thinner.
Little did I know at the time my mom had strong anorexic tendencies then. That was the ‘70’s before internet or anyone really knowing about such things, and it contributed to me heading down a path of disordered eating and having body issues.
What also took me years to realize is that no two bodies are alike! My mom had nice breasts, carried her weight (if she had any) in her stomach area, had a flat bum and thin legs. I on the other hand have very small breasts, small waist, a bubble butt and heavier thighs. So very different.
Since that time I struggled with anorexia then bulimia for many years. If I wasn’t binging, I was exercising tons. It seemed like I was in a constant battle with my body, always hating the heavier, more athletic thighs, bubble butt, small chest that I had and being 5’2” on top of that. I felt child like many times.
I thought because I didn’t have a good size chest or cleavage, or because I wasn’t tall enough (and so on) that I wasn’t or couldn’t be sensual or womanly.
Yet nothing could be further from the truth!
In the past while I really started reflecting on what is shown to us as women from an early age from magazines, to advertisements to tv to clothing and realized how messed up it truly is. Usually leaving me feeling not good enough and / or not liking my body………..can you relate?
Where is it in our society that looks and fashion come before anything else and that one needs the perfect body? What is the perfect body and who decided what beauty is?? We’ve been programmed to believe that most if not all men love 5’10” blonde bombshells yet is it true?
We have been programmed to believe that without a label we are second class, or as the media may allude us to believe we are not good enough the way we are. Now please don’t get me wrong, I love to feel and look good. I take my health seriously by eating well. I dress for comfort and what I enjoy wearing, regardless of my age or what the fashion states as being in. And maybe that is just it – it’s my age. I’ve learned not to care what others think now.
Turning 50 last year has lead me to be able to sit and reflect on things in my life, the good and the bad, what I’ve done, not done, choices I’ve made and wasted energy in my life. I spent way too much time hating myself or my body, exercising as punishment for eating the wrong foods, or hoping to thin out my thighs instead of for the sheer enjoyment of exercising and allowing my body to move and express. I wasted too much time worrying over foods I ate that I shouldn’t have or better yet buying into any of that media hype whether on tv or in a magazine that lead me to think I just wasn’t good enough!!
Too much wasted time!
We have to stop buying into the bs programming and we have to start asking better questions and we have to start loving ourselves and bodies more, that is my opinion. We need the feminine to re-emerge fully in ourselves.
After all, if we don’t have the best relationship with ourselves how can we truly have an awesome relationship with another, based on truth and love.
Little did I know how much of a Healing Kind of Therapy this project would become!!
Even though this has been on my mind to do for several years, fear of sorts has kept it away and excuses – that one day I would do it. Yet I kept talking about it, I knew my struggles with an eating disorder for many years, with body image issues and feelings of not good enough I thought were just me, that almost everyone else was doing great – just me had issues – that I was somehow special (yet in a dysfunctional way lol).
As I started talking about this project and hearing women come forth, I realized it wasn’t just me. When one day about 2 months agoI was looking for a radio station and an interview caught my attention on eating disorders and I decided to listen in only to learn that 40% of 9 year old girls have been or were on a diet I knew I couldn’t just keep thinking about doing this or talking about one day – I just had to start it.
A dear friend created a Facebook event on Wreck Beach in Vancouver as women were interested in partaking in it for different reasons.
All I know is I am hearing how freeing it is, how a session has helped them in several ways, how they are becoming more aware of more self love and more……….that to be is music to my ears because I so can relate.
It is a kind of healing therapy, one I believe that is truly experiential and can’t be described through words.
So far everyone has said YES to being part of my book which I can’t wait to produce as women everywhere especially in North America will be able to use it, see themselves and hopefully heal parts of themselves as well from this messed up dieting, body image thing we have going on. And that nudity is a sex thing…………..
I’ve also been getting messages from both females and males saying thank you, this is needed, beautiful work which to me is a sign of being in the right place and in the flow.
I can’t tell you how honoured I am to be with these beautiful women and able to capture a moment in time, true beauty and the essence of them – you can see it over the course of the photos – the first may be a little tight, uncomfortable or tense but not by the end. Maybe it helps that I’ve been shooting them mostly in the nude too so we are on equal playing fields – it’s incredible when the clothes are off, the walls come down and the conversations become more real.
It’s not a sex thing.
It’s a real life, living, self love thing.
I am so proud to be part of this movement.
Please feel free to find out more about the Raw, Naked and Beautiful Project here or on Facebook AND if you like this or know someone it could help – PLEASE SHARE.
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Have been on the Sunshine most lately and this past week I had no internet, a great time and way to decompress (well sort of, helped a friend move), connect with nature (found an Eagle feather – always a great sign), hang with my dog and really think about the project that I have been talking about for way too long and not doing much about it – until recently and now it is becoming my focus.
Raw, Naked and Beautiful (read more about it here) the project!!
Raw, Naked and Beautiful
In the past couple of weeks I have been able to connect with and start photographing some beautiful and amazing women and am looking to do many more.
Since overcoming my eating disorder AND my body image this has become such a powerful force for me to help as many other women as possible be free too!!
These are just a couple of the photos I took being playful, being comfortable in their bodies, being bold, being beautiful and showing up as themselves and truly embracing being that – body and all!!
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That is what this is ALL about.
Advertising, Media, Fashion and more has created such judgment of self and others, competition, exercise but not for health of it or the joy of doing it but to manipulate the body or punishment of eating something we shouldn’t.
The craziness and insanity has to stop.
There are no two bodies alike and we need to all embrace our beauty and our uniqueness.
I look forward to bringing many more photos, thoughts and insights on this!!
Raw, Naked and Beautiful
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