ok, lets be honest here, did you make any resolutions this year and if so were they the same ones as last years and the year before?
Here are the top resolutions – that get repeated every year, year after year:
Lose Weight and Get Fit
Learn Something New
Eat Healthier and Diet
Get Out of Debt and Save Money
Spend More Time with Family
Travel to New Places
Be Less Stressed
January comes and the gyms are full after the December binging and over spending.
February rolls around and there is less wait time for the machines at the gym and more room in the Yoga classes. Then, by March, April at the latest, everyone is back to their same old routines and the resolutions, well that is for next year! 🙂
In 2020, we can push ourselves to do (actually I prefer the word be)our best without pressure, anxiety, stress or false promises.
We don’t need to compete, judge or beat ourselves up (most of us have gotten really good at that and we got to let that go!).
There is a difference between resolutions and intentions.
Intentions need to be heart felt.
What does that mean?
It’s one thing to say I want to lose 10 lbs (as an example) but if you’re really not coming from the heart, it’s only wishful thinking or a heady decision (as in I should lose the weight) yet not heart felt.
So, it won’t happen.
Why do you want to lose 10 lbs? (or anything else on your resolution list)
Get behind and feel the reason, keep asking yourself why? How will it serve me or how will I feel when x happens (in this example I lose 10 lbs)?
Tap into the feeling you truly desire.
That feeling of already losing 10 lbs and see it in your minds eye (close your eyes and go within and really picture yourself 10 lbs lighter) then create the feelings to go along with it.
It could be to just feel better in your body, or to feel more confident, sexy or beautiful or whatever, you want to tap into that felling and feel it.
What is cool about this is – your mind does NOT know the difference between real or imagined – it’s just like a computer -whatever you program it with, it responds. Therefore, the more you can see it AND feel it, you can do / be it!
If you can do that, when there are moments of it getting tough, or the monkey mind starts chattering to you why all the reasons you should stop or eat this or that or not go for the walk, you can tap back into the feeling you want to have more permanently.
That is taking back your power, that is overriding your ego / monkey mind, that is being you and more aligned with the real you.
It’s time to not push ourselves in a way that gets us burnt out, compete or give up. It’s time to tap into different feelings so we can step into the best version of ourselves, with no pressure to compete against anything outside of ourself.
When we set intentions that are heart felt and not to compete with anything or anyone outside of ourselves, then we are also overcoming those emotions of fearing failure, fearing what people think of us, fearing that we’re not good enough.
That’s the power behind intentions compared to resolutions.
Here’s to saying goodbye to the past, to letting go what weighs us down, things that are not our truth or are inauthentic and to being appreciative of what 2019’s challenges have taught us.
Here’s to welcoming in 2020 with clear intentions, self love and gratitude for all.
My mantra for 2020 is:
Everyday in every way, I expect and choose to believe in magical moments and miracles.
I wonder what would happen if we started our days with a mantra like that, oh how the world might change!!