EFT, Food & You
We have come along way since the days of the Hunters / Gatherer’s way of eating. Food is everywhere and part of everything today. So much of what we really call food is not even close to what real food is, especially here in North America. Food & emotional eating and addiction to food have become a way of life for many, and it’s usually not a healthy way. Not only do I speak from experience, but look around us there is evidence everywhere, obesity, diabetes, heart disease and so on. I won’t even get into the cost of food in this post!!!
When one has a struggle with food whether it be restriction, emotional eating, binge eating, over eating, or even addiction to certain foods that one really wants to let go of, there are usually emotional reasons behind these ways of being. I can only speak for myself, but when I was struggling to have a somewhat ‘normal’ relationship with food, I lacked self confidence, never felt good enough, was very self critical, couldn’t love myself, so how could I love anyone else? Was always comparing myself to other women and of course would come up short, so what did I do often………..I turned to food for comfort, so I couldn’t feel the pain or acknowledge it, so I would stuff it down, which could keep me busy often for hours, so I also didn’t have to look at my life or participate in it………..
Many things changed over the years for me to have a better or normal (what is normal for me, and we all I believe have a somewhat different normal for ourselves) or healthy relationship with food. Deciding I wanted to, deciding I wanted to live life and enjoy it, not have my head stuck in a fridge or toilet, wanting to enjoy and taste food, having kids and doing some inner work, finding peace within myself. Learning to accept myself – warts and all, learning to let go of judgement, seeing the good in me and what I could do instead of what I couldn’t do, so I could see the good in others. And finally, loving myself……plain and simple. EFT / Tapping comes in very handy for all of those things, that is why I love this tool so much.
I tapped on – Never being good enough, feeling less than, not having confidence, not being good enough (yup sometimes a 1 word change can make a big difference or knock down the problem completely), using food for comfort, hating myself, hating my body, being short, having small breasts, short legs, scared of talking in public, putting myself out there, what will people think of me, to being strong enough, who was I to think I could……, eating too much, eating too little, having no control around food, wanting to eat more, having no self control, no will power, can’t stand up for myself and well I could go on……….but you probably get the idea.
When I was first introduced to EFT through a weekend workshop, I worked on not being good enough…….which is fairly general, but we got it down to a zero intensity and it started at a 10, which is the highest. Well, with one word change to never being good enough, I was back at a 10………I couldn’t believe it, but we got that down to a zero, then got a little more focused, like where and when do I not or never feel good enough………so if anyone is using food a crutch or a comfort for not feeling some emotions, this really is one of the easiest and best tools to use. Now, sometimes, you will need or benefit from using a therapist or someone who specializes using tools like this to really get down to the core issues and dissolving them faster.
Food is to nourish our bodies, but our minds and spirits too. Food should be used to feed our bodies and be our medicine as often as possible. It is more for enjoyment and entertainment these days, but also highly abused. When we can let go of emotions that aren’t serving us not only can we start having a better relationship with food but ourselves as well.
When I first got into Raw Foods, again I got a little too narrow minded, hell I got a fair bit anal……..I now know and realize that most people won’t or can’t eat this way even 60% of the time, and I didn’t want to eat like this 90 or 100% of the time, even though I know the health benefits, I am not sure if one needs to be 100%, plus I didn’t want the pressure or it. I like being balanced and having some flexibility, when I was too narrow minded about having to be raw, it took a toll on me and my relationship, and that is not healthy either. Anyone who swings too far one way, I feel isn’t healthy either. (so in case you are wondering why I changed the title of my blog, that is a big part of it).
You were born a beautiful spiritual being here to have a human experience, so I believe, and we should make it the best one and why not start today!!!
Make it Your BEST DAY EVER!!