The drug of choice for many, especially women, is food.
Along with that drug often comes constant self criticizing, loathing, judging and obsessing about what one ate, didn’t eat, body size, shape and imperfections – no matter how small they may seem, it always gets distorted.
Yes, media, advertising, possibly parents, teachers, friends or siblings may play a role in somehow reminding us that we aren’t good enough the way we are IF we buy into it and believe it.
The start of De-Programming the mental Self Talk
It’s a disorder gone rampant, with over 91% of women disliking their bodies and themselves, many to an extreme. 80% of 13 yr old Canadian girls have been on a diet already and 95% of people with an eating disorder are between the ages of 12 – 25 yrs.
I know – I’ve been one of them.
Self Talk is Better – There is NOW Awareness of the Self Abuse Programming
The mental, emotional and often times physical bondage is excruciating – yet many hide it well from others. The wires around the head represent the mental constructs of the programs, self talk and beliefs – none of which are self loving.
Stuffing down emotions, or better yet, not feeling them at all.
We often feel alone, fragmented and on our own keeping things bottled up inside.
We are caught in a vicious cycle of self depreciating, devaluing, loathing and often times self abusive – until we decide enough!!
Starting to Truly See the Lies We’ve Been Telling Ourselves!!!
Only 5 % of women naturally have the body type portrayed by women in the media and for which the other 91% are trying to compete, yet we continue to strive for something that truly is not the ‘norm.’
We aren’t good enough the way we are is the constant reminder.
The other 4% don’t have tv, internet or magazines and therefore really, they are the free ones.
If we’re going to buy into stories, why not buy into self empowering ones?
Who truly decided what beauty is?
Waking Up to the Truth of Who You Are (Who I AM!!)
We all have a story to tell – we’re trying to make it a similar to one another and that is the start of the disconnect.
We are born and should be able to be our authentic selves and creatively express who we truly be through our gifts – not by trying to be like one another.
With the start of the disconnect we compare, judge, shut down and buy into someone else’s ideas of beauty and what we should look like and we start our own mantra of not being good enough.
Yet we are like snowflakes – each individually designed, beautiful and unique.
Some of us, remembering that, have broken free from that bondage – most of it being self imposed and mental self talk.
We decided that our lives weren’t about fighting our bodies, hating our bodies or ourselves or spending 95% of our time worrying about a few pounds or what we did / did not eat.
Cause it’s really not about food.
There were too many other beautiful, amazing things to see, feel, be and do in this lifetime.
That is the start of removing the bondage – you allow yourself to feel – ALL and reprogram the self talk.
The one thing that separates a food / body obsessive addiction is you have to learn to live with both, unlike most other addictions.
When one can truly do that – accept and love what is – then the bondage is gone and nothing is more freeing than that.
I know I am one of them!
True Freedom from Self Imposed Limitations & Abuse
Women Wanted who Want to Break Free – Raw, Naked and Beautiful Project – Real, Authentic and Truthful – Beauty!.
This will become a book and gallery exhibitions – I am currently in the Ajijic Mexico area but will be travelling this year and will be posting where I will be – Please contact me if you would like a session!!
This is the simple difference between clarity and confusion.
– Matt Khan
Our ‘Reality’ is not as real as you may think!
I am also pretty sure that the title Raw, Naked and Beautiful could have some pretty interesting thoughts or images dancing around one’s head 🙂
I took on and named this project almost 2 years ago – it’s been in my thoughts constantly yet I struggled with a few things – with the direction and within me – now much more is becoming clear and it’s truly the time to move forward with this!!
Raw, Naked and Beautiful stands for Real, Authentic and Truth – and I may, actually I hope 🙂 as the deeper I dig, I realize how little I know or understand about the real energetics of living and being yet my journey and inquestable thirst for truth (ahh being a true Sagg) I would love to share what I am finding as our ‘reality’ that seems so real is not what you nor I think or have been taught it is!!
Our so called ‘ reality’ is such a man made construct based on anything but truth, We are multi dimensional beings that view and live life through our 5 senses which is extremely limiting as we cannot keep up with how much information is in our awareness or fields each moment therefore we have beliefs, programs, patterns, judgments, points of views etc that everything gets censored through – kind of like that telephone line game as a kid – remember how distorted the information was by the time it hit the last person – no where near how it started out usually. Funny in the game but not always funny in the game called life!
Real Foods – what the body needs!!
Raw is about real – real foods, real emotions, real conversations, real ways of living and being. Where can we be more real in our lives? I will dive more into all of this in upcoming posts!! We are turning more into who we are and living from the heart more not the head. (psss – there will be a little gift coming out soon so check back in shortly)
Raw, Naked and Beautiful Project
Naked is about being Authentic – whether that is having your photo taken in the nude, semi nude or not it’s who are you truly and how do you want to be seen being the real you!? And speaking of naked – what is wrong with the human body, your body? Do you love it? or not? It’s time to let go of negative self talk, self abuse and another twisted thoughts about nudity being pornographic etc Our bodies are the place our Souls call home – love it and a big part of that is being the real you! I will share my journey of my relationship with food, my body and self and why now this is my mission. Some major deprogramming for some of us for sure!!
Celebrate YOUR Awesomeness!!
Beautiful is about Truth – the truth of who we are! I so love using the snowflake analogy as it seems to work – we are each like a beautiful,unique snowflake that when we come together we all play an unique role but when looked t separately we look different, are unique and beautiful – so why try and be like anyone else!!?? Loe your unique, quirky, beautiful awesomeness!!! 🙂
We all came into this world pure, innocent and full of love – somewhere along the line the story got distorted.
The journeys to come home, back to self, back to love.
When we leave planetEarth we may be asked of our time here – how much were you able to love and how much were you able to receive love………
So I leave you with this question – where in your life can you be more, raw, naked and beautiful??
PS To find out more about the Raw, Naked and Beautiful project click here.
If you are struggling with Emotional Eating or sense of Self – 21 Days Food & You is a great starting place!
Me Being Me – Photo by Ted Peters
Here are a few examples – judgment vs non-judgment or anyone or anything, ease vs struggle, love & self love vs hatred and self hatred, happy vs sad and so on. It’s ok to move thru different emotions s that is part of the human experience down here but to stay in a lower state for extended periods of time is not real living or being as each decision we make – even how we feel is based on coming from love or fear.
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Have you ever gone hiking somewhere into the back woods or somewhere where you could connect with nature. Have you taken some time to sit in the nude in the sun and soak up the rays, enjoying the quiet (obviously where people aren’t of course), sitting with your thoughts, being present and knowing you’re perfect just the way you are?
I did and it was fun and freeing!!
“Freedom from obsession is not about something you do; it’s about knowing who you are. It’s about recognizing what sustains you and what exhausts you. What you love and what you think you love because you believe you can’t have it.”
― Geneen Roth, Women, Food and God: An Unexpected Path to Almost Everything
“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.”
― Amy Bloom
“A cultural fixation on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty but an obsession about female obedience.”
We are heading out on a road trip today. It’s been a crazy, amazing time leading up to this moment and I’ve been so present in what I have been doing that I gave very little time to thinking about this trip – more about all of that in another post.
As we make our way down to Florida and back over a couple of months I want to connect with women who would like to have a private photo session either just for themselves or to be part of my book coming up – Raw, Naked and Beautiful.
I am looking for women who want to be part of the Conscious Feminine to share their stories of their journey of coming back to more of themselves, more love, more self love and are body proud!!!
I have been receiving messages from the women who I have been doing nude photography sessions with on how much it has furthered their journey, empowered them, healed them and more.
The more love and self love we can bring back and embody is powerful!!
It’s time to take back our power!
Are there other ways? Of course, but this is one powerful way too, it may not speak to you but the women who have gone down the path of an eating disorder or similar, have had body issues, self esteem issues and who have bought into the lies by the advertising, media and more that we aren’t enough, nor good enough or again similar will get this!!
Please pass this on and or reach out to me as I would love to connect with you if this is resonating with you!!